What I realized about myself is how easily and how much time I slip and spend on what I call “beat-up mode”. You know, agonizing over things I did wrong, things that didn’t work out, things that I should have, could have, would have done. The what-ifs, the if-onlys, the i wish….I have ripped paper, kicked, screamed, cried, pulled out my hair (literally!) during these beat-up sessions. What a waste of time and energy.
I have to admit folks, there are things that didn’t work out; things that are not working out in my life. But I refuse to beat up myself anymore, refuse to beat myself up for being in beat-up mode….oh, it can be such a vicious cycle. Instead, acknowledge that my feelings are valid, but then move on from it. Look at what’s next? What can i do to make it work?
People can sometimes say, it’s easier said than done. That’s right! That’s what makes it life, that’s what makes it exciting, challenging. It’s the difference for example, between wanting to find a different job and doing all it takes to find a different job. It’s the difference between reading a self-help book and applying what you learned in the self-help books you’ve read. It takes action. Action is so much harder than reaction, and is much, much harder than fantasizing, and sitting in front of the television in the drift.
But the beauty of action is you can always make the decision to take it. Right. Now.